Have you ever posted what you thought was a great a picture of you only to have just 3 likes after 2 hours? Then not getting a lot of likes made you question the picture?
Social media is a great tool for business, keeping in touch with friends and for getting news out there. It also presents quite a conundrum when it comes to issues of self image, self worth and esteem. As a Personal Branding Consultant one of the first points that I address with my clients is the need to have a healthy self image before working on their outfit or external image.
I recently had a chat with Mental Health Expert and Independent Therapist Ms Shanel Nayang Monyere-Nikolic. A great point she made was "Remember not to let external validation go too far or else you give people around you permission to determine your worth and value. In such cases, find out the insecurities holding you back and work from the ground up to build your identity. Even when you practice such internal validation, beware not to give in to confirmation bias."
She went on further to say " What’s astounding is that when your wrong opinions are repeated a sufficient number of times, then your mind will reinforce a feedback loop. You’ll be more confident that what you believe is indeed true."
In closing our discussion, Shanel noted that "It's normal to seek some outside validation, but have confidence in yourself and accept your own identity. Have that balance of knowing yourself, but being open to others.
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